Ive been living in a 2 bedroom house for the past 5 years owned by my aunt. I pay her the houses mortage and bills so natuarly the check is named after her.
Around the 3rd year of me living at the home, my housemate who is also another relative moved out becuase he was able to buy a home for him and his family and I naturally went ahead to find a roomate to rent the spare room.
It was a tough find but I finally decided to settle with a young couple below 20 who just got married and with a baby on the way. Given the situation and lack of other renters to take the room I took them in.
House rules are pretty lax, free range of the kitchen and living room and with an even decreased rent. Free cable and wifi, except for SDGE
Things were sorta ok when they first moved in. But i did noticed even though she tells me that she was a neat freak that she was actually a horder. My small kitchen became a storage space of sorts. She is part of WIC so she natuarrly stocks up on items, but to the point even my dinning table had items over it. The carpet, would always have dirty bits and i rarely saw her vaccum. Again give the tough economy ( ressecion time) I tried not to rock the boat and let it slide.
When she had the baby, she started using cloth diapers, but would wash them in the washer with some “fecal” mater still on and would get to my clothes when i do my batch of laundry.
When i spoke to her about it, she gave me a catty attitude. her husband is nice, is actually cleaner at the house. Another issue I had was their fights, shout fests and such. Then theres dishes 2 days worth of them at the sink. the hording became worse, it over flowed to the living room, and now the house smelled worse and worse. they rarely clean the kitchen or just anywhere. it became a habit of mine even though now i come home late to clean up after them or when i come back from work
I went on a out of country vacation last December for 3 weeks and didnt announce my return date. 2 days before my flight back I am recieving a Facebook message from her that her husband got into a possible gang/thieve fight and my home can be a target of retailiation. When i came home, the house had a nearly moldy musk, clothes and shoes all over the floor. Less than a week later as of tonight she texted me her husband contracted a highly contagious virus.
With my frustration boiling over for 2 years worth of mess of my home, I expressed my opinions over the phone, a first I did. Upon getting home, she gave me attitude on how “now is not the best time to LECTURE her”
and That I have no right to Micromanage her. Also she hinted that i should provide more space for her stuff.
This is what our kitchen by the way look like as of now.
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Upon asking her if this to her was neat and orderly, she answered yes. She also stated that I was playing mom to her and that I cant do that.
I told her the house is My home and SHE is my renter and there are house rules taht the renter has to follow. She then told me I am NOT the owner of the house (partially true) because the check is written to my aunt. She was quite smug in saying that I have no right to dictate how the house is ran.
I placed my foot down and told her that I have lived in the home with my parents before her, and family before her and the home furniture and everything in it was furnished by me. She still insist that I am micro managing her with the houserules and enumerated my mistakes. Some are which understandable. the then babbled how long a day she had and i did not show any ” care” or should have said ” I hope your husbands ok” upon her texting me as I was leaving work her husband has a contagious virus in our home.
I am ready to kick them out. But would like to get first Your opinion if she was right to say whats she said.
I let the thing go on as long becuase its hard to pay for the house by myself and I took pity of thier situation ( fresh out of HS, pregnant, jobless and pregnant) and did not like to rock the boat before with the house rules. Though there are signs around the house to keep the place clean and such.
ok you have been patient enough with this couple,you have a life to live,if you played the tough landlord from the start these two would have been out long ago,write a letter giving them a few weeks to vacate,just tell them you are givivng up the house for sale,they dont need to know anything else,thats your business,say goodbye to bad company and hello to freedom,what and where they go is not your concern.be strong buddy we got your back:)
You have to confront her and tell her this can not continue or you will have to seek new roommates. Stand up for yourself and enforce your rules! People will walk on you as long as you let them!
I would give them 1 month to find some place else to live, wait until after you get the rent though or they may not pay you. In that month put out an add for new renter. There are alot of ppl out there that need a place and can’t afford an apartment. Interview them, ask all your questions, and state the rules up front and even put them in writing, and have them sign it. I had this same thing happen to me when I took over my parents house. Had to rent rooms, but the renters were terrible. went through 5 of them before I found a good one but then my parents sold the house. Anyway, they need to go, that is just not right, you may not own the house, but it is still your home, and you have a right to want it to be taken care of. Good luck to you:)